Hello Dear Readers,
Happy New Year! We wish you the best for the year 2016. Thank you for sticking with us so far, we hope you enjoy this new post.
Let me begin by wishing you an extremely happy new year. So this new beginning has had my mind in an overdrive. The last year was not that great. So I am glad that it is over. To be completely honest with you, unfortunately, yes, I have entered this New Year with a negative attitude. My friend has tried to wane away this attitude but in vain.
Like everybody I have tried making resolutions; lost count of the failed ones. So this year, I decided to make ones that I know I will make a harder effort to keep. My excuse for giving back until now was that I volunteered for a lot of causes and currently work at a NGO. So, I do give back to the society. But while looking at the bigger picture, I also realized that we miss out on so many people who affect our lives, every day.
I vow that I am going to try to be less irritated at people. I am going to try to be kind to lady in the train who takes up a little more space than needed. I am going try not to get irritated at the calls I get at work over silly doubts. I am going to be more thankful for what I have and understand that what I have is much more than I need. I am going to keep the humbling experiences close to me. I, also, need to be more proud of my country and my world; of all those unsung heroes that go unnoticed.
For my family and friends turned family, I am going to not take you for granted. I have this awful habit of being more kind and generous towards strangers than my own. I am going to work towards my relations and make them more sustainable in the long run.
Lastly, I am going to work on myself. Respect this body that has literally been and grown with me since inception. If I don’t take care of it now, then when? I am not my physical self only. Lately, the mental health has been taking a toll; high time I look after it. I am going to read more; fiction to be more imaginative and non-fiction to see reality. I am going to use the word ‘should’ less. Lastly, I am going to smile more and take a longer walks.
Don’t list out strong, knee jerk resolutions. Simplify your life and figure out what is bothering you at more personal levels. You may need to lose weight but you may first want to work on loving yourself, no matter the size. You may want to earn more money but you may want to first find out what makes you happy. Work on those. Life is going to fall into place anyway. You are not going to be sad always or happy always. But what you can achieve is a balanced life, to appreciate and give back.
Just like that, in the blink of an eye, 2015 is over. Even though the universe didn’t stop to acknowledge this fact, I felt a flurry of emotions this past week.
Like most people, I have many hopes and dreams for the future. I also have no clue how I’m going to get there. All I can do is set some goals for the near future and hope that everything turns out well. Just this once I don’t want to make a list of selfish changes to make my life better. In view of all the good things I received last year, I think 2016 should be the start of a season of generosity.
I like to think of myself as a generous person. But I regularly meet people who do so much for others that I feel ashamed. In 2016 I’m setting a goal for myself to give more of my time energy and resources to those in need and those I care about. Partly because I like to help and to make people happy, and partly because this way I will spend less time being sorry for myself. This will require that I step out of my comfort zone at first. There is a unique satisfaction in giving to a cause without any afterthought. I cringe when people suggest to volunteer here and there, not because it is a good thing in itself but because it looks good on the resume and makes one look good in society. I tend to believe that this type of thinking leads to actions that only scratch the surface (if you have followed the controversy surrounding avaaz.org you will know what I’m talking about).
There is a balance to find between giving energy to others and being sufficiently strong oneself. In 2015 I’ve received so much from so many people. Emotionally, financially, intellectually. I couldn’t forgive myself if I didn’t at least try to give back some of it. And I know that in order to do that I must put more effort in taking care of myself. Being able to stand on my own two feet would be the greatest gift for my family, friends and all those who gave me guidance and support. I want to become a strong person able to support others, but I don’t want to fool myself into thinking that I am invincible either. Giving back is also about recognizing that we didn’t make it on our own.
Let me end by sharing with you some TED talks that have inspired me recently. Giving back is also about passing along the good stuff, and to me that is one of the best aspects of social media.